To say that being a working Momma is hard, is honestly a HUGE understatement. And to be completely transparent and honest, I also struggle with anxiety. On top of managing every day life of running two business', attending to the needs of a little human is a lot for one person to take on. I have struggled that last few months trying to decide if I should stop taking new clients, where I should be working, and how often I should be working. Mom guilt is real. It. Is. Real. But when you have a growing business, you work nearly non-stop. Thank goodness for these sweet souls who love us unconditionally, and love any time that we get to spend together. Here are a few things I have learned through countless trial and error and many, many failed attempts at this balancing act called life.
It is OK to say no. When building a clientele you want to be as flexible as possible. I remember working until 10:30, 11:00 at night sometimes because I was trying to accommodate to each and everyone's schedule. Or I would squeeze that desperate client in at the last minute because I figured 'Hey, its money.. right?' It is OK to say no. It is OK to have set hours and stick to them. It is OK to tell a client that they will need to wait 3 more days because that is when your next opening is. It is OK to refer them else where if your next opening isn't for 2 weeks. It is OK to say no. The fear is that through out building that if they even think about going some where else that they will no longer be your client. And yes, this is a very real fear. BUT, your time and skill is invaluable. The good clients will come. Do not sell your self short. There will be clients that will not even ask out of business hours because they respect the fact that you don't live to do lashes. They are your job/career/passion, but they are not your life.
Do not underestimate the power of a hug. At the end of the day, our little's just need some snuggles. We love ending the night reading a book, talking about our day, changing into comfy jammie's and saying our prayers. My daughter is four, and will literally keep telling you a story until you cut her off. It is the best and the worst. It may be 10-15 minutes, but it is the best part of my day.
Getting help is OK too. I have lost the continual laundry battle. I have been over run, and am honestly in the pile of laundry stacked on my living room couch. But in all seriousness, that laundry pile has been sitting there for over a week, and it just keeps getting larger. Thank goodness there are people that actually enjoy folding laundry. I have no shame in hiring someone to help me deep clean and do laundry. I have found it alleviates a lot of stress in my life to find some help. This will free up time for you to do things you actually want to! Do not underestimate the power of trade ladies!! [ ;
Essential oils-get some! Alright, alright. I know the hype surrounding oils may be too much for some to believe. I do not think they are a cure all, but I do think that they definitely serve a purpose. I love oils that are meant to relieve stress, that uplift your mood, and that also calm your nerves and help you to unwind. There are SO many oils, and if you have an issue, they have an oil for that. I also love using oils for aches and pains at the end of the day!
It is also necessary to take time for your self. The saying that you can not pour from an empty glass is a rule of thumb as a Momma. Do not feel guilty getting a massage. Do not talk your self out of going to the gym for an hour because you've already been away from them all day. (Also a HUGE stress reliever!!) You need to take care of your self, so that you can take care of others.
We are human. It is OK to have limits. It is OK to say enough is enough. If you feel like you are not being able to focus enough on where your priorities are at, it is OK to scale back other parts of your life. Take 15, 20, 30 minutes a day to spend in your happy place. Regardless of what that is, make that your top priority. Some love getting into a good book. Others love meditation. Lately for me, it has been a hot shower BY MYSELF. I've been beyond guilty of lying on the couch and asking for cuddles while I take a quick nap before we go onto the next adventure of the day. Remember to love yourself, love your life in all of its beautiful chaos, and to love the time you get to spend with your little's.
Just a little reminder that we are all doing our best and that we can make it through even the toughest days!!